![]() Why do I need to do any of this?” And I said, “But your life isn’t always going to be good. I’m not going to say who it was, but we talked for a long time and their response was, “My life is good right now. ![]() Treat yourself to 85+ years of history-making journalism. I had conversations with some of the cast who weren’t taking it seriously, and it felt like I was banging my head against a brick wall. ![]() If people weren’t buying into the concept or committing themselves to the process, that was clear. There’s no distractions, so it’s very much about the process and the relationships you form. When you spend that much time with people, you can see a little more clearly. How obvious was it when you were going through this process that some people weren’t interested in what the show had to offer? Other people weren’t so interested in the process. Your “character” on the show was so interesting because you were open to those experiences like the workshops. Let’s go clubbing,” but you never actually take the time to talk through the things that happened in a smart way to get to the root of the issue. We call up our boys and say, “Let’s go get some drinks. And I think that’s something that the male demographic misses out on. In seeing each other’s weaknesses and vulnerabilities, we became a stronger group. We hide them away and it causes things to feel much bigger than they actually are and make us think that these things that we’re going through are just us. It’s often that guys are too scared to show their flaws and insecurities around other guys. That was a really important moment for myself and I think for a lot of the guys. Now, my eyes have been opened up a bit more.īeyond the sexual nature of the show, you had a couple of “workshops” that challenged masculinity stereotypes. I think that maybe I was putting too much weight on how someone looks in the past. Without that, there wouldn’t be enough substance. It’s those things that you fall in love with. It’s the quirks in someone’s personality. They can be objectively fantastic, but if there’s nothing else, it’s hard to fall in love with how someone looks. I don’t think you can completely disregard how someone looks from the equation, but the emotional side of things is so vital. I think it’s definitely a blend of the two. ![]() So what’s the difference now when you, say, go out to the bar? Is there really a greater importance on emotional connection? I can’t put too much definition on it at the moment. Um, right now it’s difficult, isn’t it? We’re on lockdown so I can’t really get out of the house that much! You know, I’m kind of… I’m in a position where it is… maybe, is what I’m going to say. Assuming you’re back on the dating scene… are you seeing anyone right now? I picked up on that distance a little bit, but you did take a couple of swings! The chemistry just didn’t end up being there. But by doing this show, I learned that in order to get what I really want, I have to put myself in that vulnerable position and take a chance. I’d keep people at arm’s length and that would stop me from getting hurt. It’s like, I would protect myself by not putting myself out there. For me, personally, it was about vulnerability. I gained a lot from the experience, for sure. You have these people who are aesthetically pleasing, but you take away the ability to interact physically, but honestly-do you feel like you took much away from it? Too Hot to Handle is an interesting concept. Birtwistle hopped on the phone with Esquire to discuss dating post-reality TV, staying fit, and if there's a nice bird who already has laid claim to his revamped heart. Like the rest of the world, Birtwistle is currently holed up in his London apartment with his sister and her boyfriend, so applying those new rules of dating aren't as fruitful right now as he'd hope, but if anything could have prepared him for the value of a FaceTime call over a physical connection, it's Too Hot to Handle.
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